Sorrow and Solice for Sgt. John Johnson

Hey everyone. I’d like to take the time and use today’s piece to extend my condolences to the families of John Johnson and his wife, Heidi. John Johnson was a retired police sergeant for Townsend Police Department of Townsend, MA. He served about 40 years on the department and was retired for only about 4 months when him and his wife were in a fatal, head-on collision with a drink driver that made a wrong U-turn going the wrong direction.

Lowell Sun article by Scott Shurtleff

In this article and news clip by CBS 4 local news coverage with Katie Brace, Sgt Johnson used to specialize in accident reconstruction. And, the driver who struck Sgt Johnson’s vehicle has had prior charges for driving under the influence. When I learned about had happened, I felt awful about it. Here’s a guy who gives about 40 years to a community and barely gets to enjoy retirement with his wife before his work turned around and became his demise. I’m struggling to find the words to express how unfair, unkind, and dark that is. It reminded me of how unforgiving life can be sometimes.

Legacy.com Obituary for John and Heidi Johnson

With the way it all turned out, I’m a bit short on words but I wanted to send my condolences out anyways. I guess the takeaway from this for me is to cherish your time while you’re here, love your family, and be kind and considerate to others because life is short, the small things aren’t important in the big picture, and there’s no telling when it’s time to go.

R.I.P Sgt John Johnson and wife Heidi Johnson.

Stay Strong,

Clinton

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Helping Yourself to Self Help

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Self Help

There are many ways to describe and define self-help, but the most universal definition I’ve come up with is, “Self Help is something you do for yourself that improves your quality of life.” Pretty straightforward and simple. You do something that’ll help your quality of life increase in some way, shape, or form. Easy Peasy, right? Sure, but not always.

How do you start working on your personal development when you don’t know what kind of help you need? And how do you help yourself with things you need help with? Good questions. So, in light of these questions, I’m going to cover a handful of self-help topics that seem to be of interest across the board.

#1) Confidence

Confidence seems to be a hot topic in the world of self-help. With social media only portraying the absolute best or absolute worst in people, it’s hard to remember that we’re all human and we all live and operate somewhere in the middle of the two polarities. Even with people having bodies like Greek Gods and Goddesses, even with their posts about healthy eating, and the seemingly effortless road to overnight success, those people are regular humans like everyone else. The difference usually lies in the choices we make, and this is directly related to confidence. Being confident enough to face your fears, overcome adversity, believe in your own abilities, and pursue your ideals gives you an advantage over anyone else who second guesses themselves.

For the folks who aren’t as confident, stepping outside your comfort zone can be intimidating.  Luckily, I’m going to share an exercise with you that will help you come out of your shell. The first step is to go out, smile and say hi to a random stranger. You might do this at a coffee shop, on the commuter rail, or at the market you always go to. Just wait until you’re within 10 feet of any given person, look them in the eye, smile and say hi. If the person doesn’t say hi back, keep moving. It’s an exercise and a numbers game. You’re going to do this repeatedly. The idea behind this is to engage with people with proactive communication that you would normally shy away from. Proactive communication is when you initiate communication. Reactive communication is when you respond to someone’s proactive communication. Chances are, you only react to the world around you and are a bit timid about initiating engagement. This is due to a low level of confidence. This exercise will help break down your timidity.

Another exercise to help increase confidence is doing something you normally wouldn’t. So, I want you to go take a class. Any class. Look for a Groupon, look for local adult learning centers and find a class on something you wouldn’t normally do. Take a welding class, a knitting class, a painting class, or like many people do today, take a fitness class. Just get out there. Want to really step it up? Take a fighting class. Any form of fighting: boxing, MMA, karate, kickboxing, wrestling, etc. Taking a class puts you in a vulnerable position, and the more you expose yourself to vulnerability, the stronger your coping skills become, which increases your confidence. Your confidence will also grow with the new skills you learn, especially with the people you take the class with. You’re all in the class to learn, so there’s a common ground that you’re all on, which is a great opportunity for bonding and relationship building.

Now, internally, you have a battle that other people may not even realize is happening. This usually comes from comparing yourself to others. You see someone who has more than you, and you compare yourself to that standard. By doing this, you are creating a self-image of insignificance and inadequacy. Before getting to that point, ask yourself what’s important to you and what makes you happy. Ask yourself what you want to do with your life. This will help redirect your mind towards the things you want, and not the things that other people have. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Talk yourself out of those feelings, literally. When you’re alone and you feel those feelings of inadequacy, talk out loud and challenge those thoughts. By confronting your inner self you begin to grow from the inside out, which is where true confidence lives. Build yourself up by proving your worth to yourself. You are the only person you need to prove yourself to.

#2) Motivation

Another big topic in self-help is getting motivated. How do you kick start yourself into gear to start working towards your aspirations? That depends on which motivation drives you more: intrinsic or extrinsic motivation? Intrinsic motivation is the drive that comes from wanting to complete something for your own happiness and praise. Extrinsic motivation is the drive that comes from wanting to complete something for the rewards or recognition received from outside sources.

I’m rebuilding a motorcycle and I am intrinsically motivated. I want to complete this project for my own happiness that comes from getting the bike up and running for my own personal pleasure. A person who is extrinsically motivated may rebuild the bike to show others or to enter into a competition for custom builds.

The motivation for success works the same way. Some people are motivated for fame and fortune, for the glamor and prestige it comes with. Others may just want the financial success for the security it provides. (Extrinsic vs. intrinsic)

You first have to figure which type of motivation drives you most, then you can use that knowledge to fuel your desires. Once you figure this first part out, your next step should be to capitalize on micro-wins. Micro-wins are the tiny successes that trigger your brain’s reward center and the release of dopamine. In the military, each soldier makes his or her bed before anything else. It is the very first thing they do. The reason for this is it triggers the reward system with the tiny success of completing and accomplishing a small goal and task. This initial step begins the soldier’s day off with a positive, rewarding start. Give yourself the same treatment so you reap the rewards of accomplishment. Continue with micro-wins as you work towards the bigger wins. You will grow in success, develop sustainable motivation, and build your confidence at the same time.

#3) Self Understanding

Know thyself. It’s a well-known phrase, but how many of us really know thyself? Reflect on Motivation and Confidence. Why do you struggle with confidence? Why are you motivated in one way vs. the other? Do you make decisions based on fear? To know yourself takes time with yourself. You’ll need to brush up on your analytical skills and apply them to yourself in an objective manner. I do this constantly to myself and after my root cause analysis, I’m sometimes left in awe at how I got to the point I’m at. How did I get here? What did I do to cause this and why did I make those decisions? Hopefully, the answers provide a lesson learned and anything deemed as a mistake is not repeated. Don’t beat yourself up if you’ve been making the same mistake over and over again and finally realize it. It’s more about what you do after you’ve realized your root causes and begin to know yourself more. In my book, “May, I Work For You” which is based on A Living System™, Module 3 is about relationships, and I discuss the importance of building your relationship with yourself. Without knowing yourself, you will never be able to build confidence, mature, analyze why your life is the way it is or any other personal development. While confidence is one of the top topics in self-help, knowing yourself is the most important.

#4) Strengths and Weaknesses

What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? Seems like an easy thing to distinguish, but the truth is for those of us who are not confident, it’s a bit of a sensitive subject. Funny thing is, for those of us who play the ruse of being confident, this can be one of the most sensitive subjects of all. Even if you are confident in yourself, you may be ignorant to your own strengths or weaknesses, mistaken about them, or in plain denial, even if it’s one of your strengths.

You see, strengths and weaknesses come with a bias. In my book, “May, I Work For You” which is based on A Living System™, Module 3: Relationships and Module 5: Habitual Thinking discuss a person’s belief system, where is comes from, and where it stands present day. If the world sees assertiveness as a strength, yet you were always told your assertiveness was aggressiveness, then you may not see it as much of a strength. On the other side of the same coin, someone who is aggressive may believe they are merely assertive. It’s difficult to identify your strengths and weaknesses without truly knowing yourself. Sometimes it takes an outsider to give us a reality check and teach us something about ourselves in order for us to grow. Weaknesses can be strengths and strengths can be weaknesses. Start by knowing yourself and then being confident enough to be honest with yourself, or confident enough to ask for another’s honest opinion.

My best advice is double down on your strengths, outsource your weaknesses, and when you have the extra time work on your weaknesses. Right now is the best time to use your strengths and do what you do best. It’s important to value yourself based on what you’re good at, not what you’re not good at. Example: If you can make a great sandwich and people will line up for your sandwiches, roll up your sleeves and start making as many sandwiches as you can as fast as you can. If you work in IT and are great with networks but you can’t code very well, don’t take on a coding project, leave that to the coders. Keep working on networks, NAT-ing IP’s, and keep those servers optimized! Catch my drift?

#5) Purpose

The long-standing question “Why am I here” has addled humans for as long as we can recall. Knowing our purpose in life has been left to religious faith, the grand destiny of life, or has been totally eluded due to its massive contemplative demands. It’s a big subject to tackle, but an important one nonetheless. Having a purpose in life is as important as having food to eat. A human must have a reason to get up every day and strive. If not, existence becomes a vicious cycle of mundane monotony. In this case, zero personal growth can happen and the topic of self-help would fade away like the Winter’s snow in the Springtime.

Luckily for me, people are still soul searching and the self-help industry is still alive and kicking. A human being’s purpose is the fuel to the flames of desire. It’s the reason we continue to try in the face of adversity, the reason we push to overcome challenges, and the reason why will never give up. Finding your purpose can be a journey in itself, but a journey that is worth every step of the way. So, how do you find your purpose? You must ask yourself “Why?”. Why do you get up every day? Why do you work? Why do you pay your bills? Why do you avoid danger? Is it for yourself? Is it for your family? Is it a vendetta you must fulfill? (Try not to live for a vendetta. Leave that to Hollywood)

Every person has a purpose. There is some reason why we all continue to take in nutrition and why we continue to survive. My purpose is to be the best husband and father I can be. I have sub-purposes that support the main two like building a business and leaving a legacy for my children, increasing online sales and regain personal time to spend with my family, and helping others with A Living System™ so I can change the world and make it a better place. I have my personal reasons why I strive like a motorcycle project that keeps me learning more and more about bikes, but my main reason, my main purpose is to be the best man I can be to my wife and our children. I want to give them the best version of myself and give them all the fruits of my labor because I love them. I guess I can say my ultimate purpose in life is love.

What’s your purpose?

 

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Dressing The Part

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They say, “You should never judge a book by its cover.” They also say, “You should never say never“. Unfortunately, book covers do a lot of the initial selling when buyers are browsing the shelves (in person or online) and the way you dress can speak volumes whether you’re aware of it or not. So I must ask, “What do your clothes say about you?
Halloween brings about costumes and role-playing for children and adults alike. It’s a time where we get to dress up as someone or something we’re not and have fun with it. But for the rest of the year, we usually dress in a way that uniquely expresses our self-image. Much of how we dress is a reflection of our belief system, particularly our belief about who we are, how much we’re worth, and a reflection of our perceived position in life. Some people wear activewear, some people wear casual wear, some people wear streetwear, some people wear business attire, and some people don’t put much effort into their clothing style at all. So, WEAR-ever you fall in the WEAR-abouts, it tells a brief bio instantly to everyone around you.
Have you ever seen those videos of people giving opportunities to a homeless person? The person showers, gets a haircut, gets a new outfit, and a large meal. The added elicited emotion of gratitude is always touching and they look like a completely different person! If you saw that same person after the makeover segment, you’d never know the person was struggling in life. The external appearance of a cleaned up and well-dressed person gives you the impression that the person is successful to some degree and has their life together. Isn’t it something though? The external appearance changes your perception of a person’s entire image.
Here are a few examples of these videos.

Lamborghini Owner Picks up A Homeless Man. Alex Is Back! And He Is Ready For His Job Interview.
by The Exotic Revolution

Homeless Veteran Timelapse Transformation
by Rob Bliss

HOMELESS MAN GETS AN UNBELIEVABLE MAKEOVER | Homeless Transformation Makeover | JOSE ANTONIO
by JonnyTGood – VIDEOS GOING VIRAL

The way you dress tells a story about who you are and what you’re about. It’s the reason we put on nice, professional looking clothes and groom ourselves for a job interview. We want the person interviewing and potentially hiring us to believe we are worth the time, energy, and money. We put on suits or tuxedos for weddings, we wear black for funerals to represent mourning, we wear certain colors in the Spring and Autumn seasons to match the natural colors of flowers and foliage, and these different styles make gestures about our feelings, moods, and the image we are portraying. Seems like an easy concept, but what about all those days where you just “throw something on“? Like it or not, people judge. My Grandma always used to tell me, “Always put on your good clothes when you go out. You never know who you’ll run into.” And it’s true. Do you really want to run into your boss or clients wearing your pajama pants while running out to the market for milk? I know I don’t. I at least put on some activewear and tie my sneakers. The other thing is, I have an online presence where I’m marketing myself as a lifestyle coach and promote lifestyle management. How does my reputation stand up against a disheveled look? I’m not a celebrity by any means, but celebrities are constantly bombarded by paparazzi trying to catch them at their lowest to exploit them in tabloids and TMZ. My point is if someone recognizes me and I’m poorly put together, it gives off the wrong impression. I know… It’s sad, but it’s the reality we live in. With that said, it’s important to maintain some minimum requirements and standards when you’re out and about, even on your off hours.

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I recently started dressing better, more dapper. My wife notices, my colleagues notice, and I get treated better at stores because of it. I haven’t been awarded anything recently, no acknowledgments for achievements, no inheritance of a large amount of money, no videos have gone viral, no social media overnight fame, no significant promotions, or anything else to the likes. I’ve simply put on different clothes. I’m the same man, these clothes have been in my closet the whole time, I’ve just decided to put them on. So, what’s changed? Only my external appearance. That’s it. But as I silently observe the behaviors of others around me, I see a positive impact on the interactions I experience directly correlated to the clothes I put on. It’s fascinating! People call me sir, step out of my way as I enter a room, smile more, take my words with authority, and are happy doing all of this!

Now, here’s the kicker. Why am I dressing this way now? What’s the occasion? Where am I going? Normally I would say “No reason“, “No occasion“, and “Nowhere“, and I would go back to my less noticeable attire to avoid the extra attention. But I have new answers, which give me a new purpose, which in return gives me the results I described in the previous paragraph. I’m dressing the part because I am becoming the part. I’m dressing the part of an owner, a CEO, a boss, a leader, a success. And “where am I going?”, closer to my dreams.

Some people call this, “Fake it till you make it”, but those who know the truth know that this is preparation for the position you want in life. You want to be a boss, you have to think like a boss, work like a boss, behave like a boss, and dress like a boss. If you don’t, you’ll never be the boss. Bodybuilders don’t become bodybuilding champions by doing the minimum requirements for a workout, they work hard and go the extra mile. Authors become the best selling by spending time writing, reviewing and revising, and then writing again. Successful entrepreneurs become successful business owners by putting in the mental, physical, and spiritual energy to create and persist, and they don’t give up after one, two, or even three failures. No one is perfect, and we all have off days, but even though those successful people have plenty of failures in their life, They stayed on track. We started at the bottom now we here!

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Module 6 of A Living System is Vision & Goals. Part of my vision and goals are to build a lucrative business that helps people and create a legacy that I can leave to my children. I need to be the kind of man that can lead people by example, which means if I’m encouraging you to clean up your life, I had better be cleaned up myself. Would you take financial advice from someone who’s broke, doesn’t manage their money well, has bad credit, and tons of debt? I didn’t think so.

I’m not telling you to start wearing suits, but take a look in your closet and then the mirror and ask yourself, “Is this my best look?”

 

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Who’s Really Successful?

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So.. The BIG QUESTION is – What is a success?

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Success is subjective to an individual’s personal definition of the term. What I’ve noticed is a lot of people know this, but they don’t know themselves enough to know how to define success for themselves. Mainstream media has defined what success is for so long (money, fame, sex, luxury cars, homes, and lavish expenses) that people forgot about what makes themselves happy. Do you really want the fame that some celebrities have where you can’t get a coffee without photos, articles, scrutiny, judgment, and criticism being a part of your order? I know I don’t.
So, again I ask, “What is a success?”
When I ask myself, “Am I successful?” I answer yes. Why though? I’m not famous, I’m not ridiculously rich, I don’t have exotic cars, I don’t have a mansion, and I don’t wear shirts that cost over $12 (I can not justify spending more than $12 on a shirt… I mean, for what?). I say, “Yes, I’m successful.” because I’m happy. I have an intelligent and beautiful wife, I have two adorable, smart, and funny children, I have a good day job, and I’m actively pursuing multiple passions of mine (eBOOK AVAILABLE THIS OCTOBER). I’m very happy with my life. Who in this world can tell me I am not successful? Only people who gauge success to someone else’s standards. My standards, regardless of what anyone thinks of them, are my standards.
Now, when I ask you, “Are you successful?” what’s your answer? What’s your definition of success? Do you believe you have to reach the same status of pro athletes, live the lifestyle of the rich and famous, or be a billionaire business owner? Your definition of success is your choice, but I have to ask 2 more questions: “Where did you adopt your beliefs on success from?” and “How do your beliefs on success make you feel?” Today’s media, music, movies, video games, and societal norms don’t do us any favors. In fact, they give us false standards to adopt into the belief system that leaves us with an empty void and a constant pursuit for validation. It’s a terrible concept but a raw reality nonetheless.
Let’s talk about it.

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Who fits our idea of success? Jimmy Fallon? Jay-Z? Diddy? Emma Stone? Jennifer Aniston? Brad Pit? Mark Zuckerberg? Bill Gates? Donald Trump? Warren Buffet? Jeff Bezos? Carlos Slim Helu? And who told you these people are successful? Quora? Forbes? XXL? The Muse? INC? LifeHack? Instagram? YouTube?
I’m not going to sit here and say you’re wrong for believing in something, that’s just simply not my place to say. But, I will encourage you to question your beliefs as a way to analyze them. It’s extremely important to form beliefs because it’s what you truly believe in and not because it is what others believe in. Aside from that, what makes you happy? Think about the things that make you most happy. Are you living and experiencing happiness? Have you achieved it yet or are you working towards it? If you aren’t, why not? You see, my life isn’t perfect, but I can say I’m happy with my life and I will continue to work towards making improvements. With that said, my life is still a success overall. One thing doesn’t disqualify me and mark me as a failure. Someone else’s opinion doesn’t mark me as a failure either. I’ve been fortunate enough to learn that happiness equals success in life and not the other way around.
It was challenging for me when I first started ClintFit Consulting and branded IamClintFit. I started at rock bottom, and if I compare myself to someone like Richard Branson, I’m nowhere close to success. But if I compare myself to where I was in 2016, 2015, 2014, etc… I’m super successful because it’s all a matter of perspective. Your perception and expectations when it comes to success will determine whether you view yourself as a success or as a failure. Give it some thought and really ask yourself, “Am I living to meet my own standards or someone else’s?” 
I hope this helps for any of you who are as hard on yourself as I am on myself. We can be our own worst enemy or we can be our own hero. The choice is our own and it’s an important choice to make. Feel free to comment on your experiences and contact me for a chance to be part of my next YouTube vlog video through Google Hangouts.

Stay Strong,

Clinton N. Downs

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